Comments on: I have found the key to happiness http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/ Come on in and stay a while... laugh a little. Maybe even think. Mon, 26 Mar 2012 20:38:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Raganator http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43530 Raganator Mon, 07 Apr 2008 16:15:54 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43530 Wayne I thought your explanation to Absurdist was great. I knew that's what you meant and agree that is how you feel. Nice explanation and examples! Wayne I thought your explanation to Absurdist was great. I knew that’s what you meant and agree that is how you feel.
Nice explanation and examples!

]]> By: Jen http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43527 Jen Sun, 06 Apr 2008 02:42:23 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43527 *laughing hysterically* Funny to read the banter between you and Abs on High this and High that. *laughing hysterically* Funny to read the banter between you and Abs on High this and High that.

]]> By: Absurdist http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43524 Absurdist Fri, 04 Apr 2008 22:50:34 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43524 I'm always right and you are always wrong. You admit this frequently. I’m always right and you are always wrong. You admit this frequently.

]]> By: Absurdist http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43523 Absurdist Fri, 04 Apr 2008 22:49:44 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43523 Nope. You have high expectations. Nope. You have high expectations.

]]> By: whall http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43522 whall Fri, 04 Apr 2008 22:19:25 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43522 <b>Jen</b>, yup, opposite. Interesting... <b>BlondeBlogger</b>, I have not read 'The Secret' but I've heard a lot about it. Sounds like it talks about things I already embrace philosophically. I ask 'the universe' to help me, and I get help. I think positively, and those positive thoughts come through into action more often than not. <b>Absurdist</b>, I think we might be having a terminology difference. There's a big difference between high expectations and high standards. <b>High Expectations</b> = expecting a positive outcome, the lack of which causes disappointment, anger, depression or negative feelings. <b>High Standards</b> = requiring a set of processes, capability, characteristics or talent that is demonstrably above average. <b>High Hopes</b> = being eternally optimistic that the best is yet to come, and being able to envision extremely positive results (aka, the big picture) and giddy with anticipation at the thought of achieving excellence. Perhaps some examples may help with understanding my usage of these terms I have high expectations AND high standards AND high hopes when I get on an airplane to go to California. High Standards apply because I absolutely won't tolerate safety issues. High Expectations apply because the company is being paid for a service and I expect to get good service (flight captain, luggage, flight attendants). High Hopes are always in effect and in this case mean I sure hope I don't get sat next to the loud smelly obnoxious talker who incompetently spills drinks on my electronics. I have High Standards and Low Expectations for my kids. There are some things like manners, hygiene, effort towards school, kindness to animals that I will not budge on and will require total compliance and meeting of my high standards. But I have low expectations meaning I care less about outcome in certain situations, like if they are last place in a race or fail a test or don't excel in some way. My high standards are to the <i>effort</i> and expectations of the outcome is low. They are to know I will always love them no matter what and they won't get punished for a bad grade <i>per se</i>, but would get punished for lack of effort or caring towards getting a better grade. To you "befriend people" point, I would say I have High Standards in my friends, not High Expectations. They don't become friends without meeting the High Standards. But I could care less if they meet my expectations while being my friend - everyone has issues, faults and makes mistakes. I hope my friends don't hold me to high expectations all the time for I will surely fail to meet them several times in my life. Jen, yup, opposite. Interesting…

BlondeBlogger, I have not read ‘The Secret’ but I’ve heard a lot about it. Sounds like it talks about things I already embrace philosophically. I ask ‘the universe’ to help me, and I get help. I think positively, and those positive thoughts come through into action more often than not.

Absurdist, I think we might be having a terminology difference. There’s a big difference between high expectations and high standards.

High Expectations = expecting a positive outcome, the lack of which causes disappointment, anger, depression or negative feelings.

High Standards = requiring a set of processes, capability, characteristics or talent that is demonstrably above average.

High Hopes = being eternally optimistic that the best is yet to come, and being able to envision extremely positive results (aka, the big picture) and giddy with anticipation at the thought of achieving excellence.

Perhaps some examples may help with understanding my usage of these terms

I have high expectations AND high standards AND high hopes when I get on an airplane to go to California. High Standards apply because I absolutely won’t tolerate safety issues. High Expectations apply because the company is being paid for a service and I expect to get good service (flight captain, luggage, flight attendants). High Hopes are always in effect and in this case mean I sure hope I don’t get sat next to the loud smelly obnoxious talker who incompetently spills drinks on my electronics.

I have High Standards and Low Expectations for my kids. There are some things like manners, hygiene, effort towards school, kindness to animals that I will not budge on and will require total compliance and meeting of my high standards. But I have low expectations meaning I care less about outcome in certain situations, like if they are last place in a race or fail a test or don’t excel in some way. My high standards are to the effort and expectations of the outcome is low. They are to know I will always love them no matter what and they won’t get punished for a bad grade per se, but would get punished for lack of effort or caring towards getting a better grade.

To you “befriend people” point, I would say I have High Standards in my friends, not High Expectations. They don’t become friends without meeting the High Standards. But I could care less if they meet my expectations while being my friend – everyone has issues, faults and makes mistakes. I hope my friends don’t hold me to high expectations all the time for I will surely fail to meet them several times in my life.

]]> By: Absurdist http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43517 Absurdist Fri, 04 Apr 2008 13:52:42 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43517 I call BS on this. You have never exhibited low expectations of anyone. In fact, you only befriend people the way I do; those with high expectations that fulfill those expectations. It's BS, and I call you on it. I call BS on this. You have never exhibited low expectations of anyone. In fact, you only befriend people the way I do; those with high expectations that fulfill those expectations.

It’s BS, and I call you on it.

]]> By: BlondeBlogger http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43514 BlondeBlogger Fri, 04 Apr 2008 05:23:09 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43514 I'm kind of an optomistic, everything-will-be-great kind of person, but yeah...it sucks when things don't go that way. Have you read "The Secret?" It's amazing and I've been working on putting into action in my life (and a lot of things have been working in an eerie sort of way). Take for example, those people who say, "I always get a parking spot." It's the law of attraction. They say it and believe it, so that's what they attract. The book encourages you to believe that about yourself. Ever since I started doing that, I kid you not, I always get a front row space wherever I go. And I never did before. Just recently, my husband was in the van with me and the parking lot was totally full. I tried to say, "Want to watch a space open up?" but he was talking so I couldn't, lol. But sure enough, just as I got to the front of the parking lot, someone pulled out and I got the spot. It happens all the time to me now. There's been a lot of other things like that that have happened. It's all about having high expectations and attracting those things to you. Very cool! I’m kind of an optomistic, everything-will-be-great kind of person, but yeah…it sucks when things don’t go that way. Have you read “The Secret?” It’s amazing and I’ve been working on putting into action in my life (and a lot of things have been working in an eerie sort of way). Take for example, those people who say, “I always get a parking spot.” It’s the law of attraction. They say it and believe it, so that’s what they attract. The book encourages you to believe that about yourself. Ever since I started doing that, I kid you not, I always get a front row space wherever I go. And I never did before. Just recently, my husband was in the van with me and the parking lot was totally full. I tried to say, “Want to watch a space open up?” but he was talking so I couldn’t, lol. But sure enough, just as I got to the front of the parking lot, someone pulled out and I got the spot. It happens all the time to me now. There’s been a lot of other things like that that have happened. It’s all about having high expectations and attracting those things to you. Very cool!

]]> By: Jen http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43513 Jen Fri, 04 Apr 2008 04:13:03 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43513 See, I'm opposite. Heh, I'll have low expectations of myself, so I don't get disappointed and high expectations of my friends (and they always exceed my expectations)!! See, I’m opposite. Heh, I’ll have low expectations of myself, so I don’t get disappointed and high expectations of my friends (and they always exceed my expectations)!!

]]> By: whall http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43511 whall Thu, 03 Apr 2008 22:31:58 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43511 <b>Jennefer</b>, I can easily agree with that saying; it is wise indeed. However, I think it matters if you're talking about expections of yourself vs expectations of situations. I have high expectations of myself and the things I control, but low expectations of the world. Internal vs external. Jennefer, I can easily agree with that saying; it is wise indeed. However, I think it matters if you’re talking about expections of yourself vs expectations of situations. I have high expectations of myself and the things I control, but low expectations of the world. Internal vs external.

]]> By: Jennefer http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-43510 Jennefer Thu, 03 Apr 2008 22:27:20 +0000 http://whall.org/blog/2008/04/03/i-have-found-the-key-to-happiness/#comment-43510 I have to disagree here....there's a saying out there that I think is wise: "Set your expectations high; find men and women whose integrity and values you respect; get their agreement on a course of action; and give them your ultimate trust." And never for a moment set them any lower for yourself or your friends. I have to disagree here….there’s a saying out there that I think is wise: “Set your expectations high; find men and women whose integrity and values you respect; get their agreement on a course of action; and give them your ultimate trust.” And never for a moment set them any lower for yourself or your friends.

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