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With the (not-so) new job, I travel a lot more. As with any change life throws at you, the choice is completely yours as to how you respond and react. You can either resist or rejoice. You can either relapse or rebound. You can either rejuvenate or reverse.

There are two contradictory phrases I adhere to.

1. You make your own destiny
2. You can’t control what happens to you

Maxim #1 embodies my zealous pursuit of excellence. If I want something to happen, I need to go *make* it happen. I shouldn’t expect a job; I need to earn one. If I want a better job, I don’t wait around for a promotion or some lucky break, it’s up to me to work harder. I don’t need to find a better partner in life, I need to *be* a better partner in life.

Maxim #2 sounds like it conflicts with the first one, but in reality it completes it. The “destiny you make” takes into account the things that “happen to you.” It is the choice of how you react that puts the control squarely in your hands.  The phrase “mind like water” seems appropriate to mention here.

I could complain about the travel… I could be all “woe is me, look at me, I have to stay up late to catch this flight” or focus on all the many seemingly bad things that can happen. I still do it sometimes, of course, but if I catch myself I try to stop. I don’t like it when people continually focus on the negatives, because eventually, it’s that negativity that defines them. I don’t want to descend into someone who’s always seeing the negative of any given situation.  Because you don’t just see the negative – you be the negative.

So what are some good things about the travel?  The frequent flyer miles are awesome.  It helps fund a quality family vacation.  I get to meet fantastic people and see neat places.  I broaden my horizons with new experiences, weird foods, different cultures and did I mention the food?  My family misses me, and I them, but that makes our reunion that much better.  I find myself more available to do things on “me time” like see a movie by myself.

But what I’ve found is the more I concentrate on the positives that are all around me… my life is just plain better. The same circumstances have happened, but in one situation, I’m down, gloomy and upset, but in the other I’m happy, upbeat and ready for more opportunities.

The other revelation is that as I’m sitting there noticing the positive things, not only am I happier, but it seems more positive things happen. It’s almost like the Universe is watching when it sends things people’s way.

Example: Let’s say I’m sitting at a blackjack table. I’m having fun, maybe losing, maybe winning. Someone comes up and watches a little bit and comments “I never do well at these table games – the odds are all wrong.” He sits down next to me anyway. We chat it up, he starts to play and soon we’re talking about work, a local show, having some fun with the dealer.

As we play, I get a blackjack. Huge win! The guy next to me sees it and says “See what I mean? I never get those.” We continue playing and I get a few others in the course of about 45 minutes. In fact, I had an extremely good run of the cards in that amount of time.

The guy gets ready to cash in and is still negative about the experience. He saw me take $100 and it turned into about $350 in that hour. He comments about that, too, and says he’s never that lucky. “These table games are a total ripoff, you know?  I can’t believe I wasted my time.  But look at you, seems that’s always the way with me – the guy next to me gets all the luck.

I ask him how he did as he’s cashing out. He had turned $100 into $200 in that same time frame. I said “you did great! You doubled your money!” His response is a pointed finger at my winnings and said “yeah, but look at you. These table games suck. I never win at them.

Here’s what I think about that situation. I envision the Universe sitting around having a drink with the Sun, the Earth and the Moon, just shooting the breeze. The Universe says “watch this – see that guy down there? I’m going to send some good vibes his way, double his money, and see how he reacts.” So the Universe sends some good luck to the guy and he sees the reaction from the man, and wonders why he even bothered in the first place.

But the Universe sees MY reaction and says “now, there’s a grateful guy. I think I’ll send some more good stuff his way – he’s at least thankful, even when what I send isn’t that great.  He’s a member of my Frequent Smiler program and gets Elite status.

Universe — thank you. I’m always looking for the things you send my way, no matter how small. I think it’s my job to find them.

The better I get at that job, the happier my life becomes.

Now that today’s life lesson is out of the way, I should do what every good blogger does – add pictures to your blog posts. So here are some pictures from my airport wifi experiences.



Ha!  There’s positive things even in the very air that surrounds you!

And lo, the people did comment thus:


  1. Dave2 says:

    Keep this travel up for another twenty years like I have and THEN you might be a little less positive! 😀

    I used to blog about the negatives a lot more than I do now but, more often than not, those negatives are the most interesting thing to happen to me. They’ll also usually the funniest. So then it’s all about how you deal with it. That’s easy for me because, at this point, I’ve just about seen it all, so my reaction is usually just to laugh and move on.

    Then blog about it because, well, you know… I’ve got a reputation to keep up.

  2. Sybil Law says:

    I just try being grateful, and that doesn’t mean it’s always easy, but it gets easier as you do it.

  3. martymankins says:

    Those wifi SSID names are quite good. I saw one when I was at Vegas that said “Your Wife Is In My Room” I should have taken an iPhone screenshot.

    Looking at the positive side of things can only bring less worry and more happiness. My job provides an odd number of reasons to complain. I finally decided that I would limit my complaining and try to focus on less worry and less stress. I still have some stress and worry, but no where near what it used to be.

    Of course, if I would decide that being comfortably unhappy is not want I want anymore, I could spend more time in airports and laughing at clever SSID names. Oh, and the food… can’t forget about the food.

  4. Megan says:

    Happiness is absolutely a choice. And I love your maxims. They dovetail together nicely if you get it. I get it. Stuff happens, but you can choose what to do with it.

    If I doubled my money at the blackjack table, I’d be dancing in my seat. Then going to get a massage with that extra money. I’m just too chicken to put the first $100 down!

  5. Sarah Reece says:

    Hey, what a post, really liked reading it. And you’ve put the crux of life in plain easy words. You attract more of whatever you think and say into your lives by the law of attraction of universe, so the more you crib about something, same negativity comes more into your life. But if you are grateful, abundance will definitely follow.

    If you see someone with always a smile on her face, doesn’t mean that she has no problems, just that she has learnt to deal with her problems.

    Thanks again for such a great read!!

  6. Dianne says:

    Just continue my dear explore with happiness a greatness of life, and never feel quite beyond your self because its not the solution. All you can is to enjoy life and face every moment a way for new path of success..

  7. Cley says:

    Very logical post. True that we really holds our own destiny but when destiny plays with us, we cannot control it. Thanks for sharing this..

  8. beautydeleon says:

    There’s no room for quitters! Always be positive in doing all your things. Never give up, just believe in yourself!

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